The way of the YPSILON – life or survival

what do I choose?

Our whole life is about taking decisions. We are always deciding whether we are aware of it or not. A fundamental decision we make early in life affects how we see the whole world: “Is the glass half full or half empty?” Decisions accompany us throughout our lives.

Depending on how our answer turns out, it is decided whether we continue on the path of survival or the path of life. Whether our life is a constant struggle and stress or whether we are in harmony with ourselves and others.

“The way of the Ypsilon” is a simple, effective model for making our choices and their effects felt by us at the body level: Am I living or surviving? Am I a human being or just the fulfiller of other peoples' expectations? Do I decide – or do I let others decide about my life?

We can always choose and decide anew – our whole life long.

Order now in bookstores or at Amazon: ISBN 978-3-749481-84-2

(200 pages, Hardcover - Published 1 October 2019 )

Article Stefan Beck

“The way of the Ypsilon” is an ideal guidebook for readers who are willing to hold up a mirror to themselves regarding their own behaviour and to question themselves.

Stefan Beck,

Würzburg – 19 February 2020

How do I decide – and how do I experience and evaluate my situation? What criteria do I use to orient myself? Do I retreat into my shell, or do I even go into conflict? Or: Which shirt do I put on this morning? And what do I prefer or not prefer to eat?

Every person takes hundreds of decisions every day. But every time we must take a decision and don't know what to do, we face a dilemma. To solve this problem, Dr Marlies Koel has developed an easy-to-implement technique. With this technique we can make every decision and its effect perceptible for us on the body level.

In her book, published in October 2019, she differentiates between the survival path “The glass is half empty” and the life path “The glass is half full”. The so-called crossing point at the “Y” is the place where we decide: Do we turn left or right? The left path stands for the “survival path”, the right for the “life path”.

“The way of the Ypsilon” is an ideal guidebook for readers who are willing to hold up a mirror to themselves regarding their own behaviour and to question themselves. Since every person seeks meaning in life, but often wants to receive it from others, the question arises: What if every person already found meaning for himself in his own life?

The author makes clear: Conflicts are often based on a lack or a grievance, i. e. on unmet needs. As long as somebody experiences a lack himself, but the environment is supposed to eliminate it, stress and conflicts are inevitable. As so often, the key to a happy and fulfilled life lies with us.

The benefits for the reader are manifold: “The way of the Ypsilon” inspires, provides more clarity, and challenges us to rethink. Becoming aware that in the past we made destructive, unfavourable decisions for us – declared as wrong – in life, although we could have decided differently, also means that we may very well choose a different option in the future – as long as we are free, courageous and willing to leave our own comfort zone.

The book contains valuable questions for the reader, knowledgeable testimonials from Dr Marlies Koel's practical work, and enlightening insights and conclusions. Her mantra is: We can leave the “well-worn path” at any time and do not have to constantly operate in “survival mode”, even if it has helped us in risky situations. But to experience ease and joy in our everyday life, this attitude to life is not suitable. Because we really don't have to fight in every situation – “for survival”.

Listening more to ourselves, relying on our own intuition, staying in touch with our feelings, taking more time for ourselves – these are the author's recommendations. Such important skills we have often “trained away” in the course of life, even if they are often still “slumbering” beneath the surface. She explains: “We are not the victims of our circumstances. No matter how bad or good our childhood was, we can always make new choices.”

Dr Marlies Koel knows how to explain even complex issues in easy-to-read language and present the challenging subject in a compelling way. The good thing is: The reader needs neither prior knowledge of psychology nor medical expertise. The book contains numerous case reports, takes up various aspects of our emotional life, and that is also what makes it so valuable to read. It helps to solve professional challenges and is equally suitable for personal issues.

“The way of the Ypsilon” gives courage, inspires confidence, and even makes the reader smile at some points when realising: This has happened to me so many times, and every time I could... well, this is human. And somehow we are almost all in the same boat.

Article by Gunhild Bohm

In her book “The way of the Ypsilon”, the author Dr Marlies Koel (counsellor, coach, and alternative practitioner) shows creative ways to move from a “survival lifestyle” to a life that is wholeheartedly affirmed.

Gunhild Bohm, Psychological Counsellor

A life in which we can be authentic and happy with ourselves and with what we do. A life in which everyone fully accepts the responsibility for their own doing and their own letting go.

Life is an endless chain of decisions. The author shows ways to find the decision criteria that correspond to one's own dispositions and preferences.

The decision how we see and feel life, what we judge as true and what as false, happens already in early childhood.

Part of being an adult is then later discovering one's stories behind the concepts and beliefs. Our beliefs and concepts determine how we see the world, whether the glass is half full or half empty. The facts are not changeable, but what is changeable is our perspective and the evaluation or weighting of what we experience. We can change the way we take decisions. Instead of self-optimisation, the joyful design of one's own life full of possibilities.

One branch of the Ypsilon – the survival way – let us experience the effects of our survival strategies directly in our body reactions and our inner images. We consciously experience the dynamics and the patterns in which we think and act. The courage to change these patterns, which unconsciously inhibit, constrict, and drain us, comes from reading this book. In our culture, we are used to blaming others for faulty behaviour out of fear of making mistakes that might provoke rejection by the other person. Or to feel guilty and helpless, thus depriving us of quality of life and inhibiting us. If we follow the path of the Ypsilon, we feel our creative powers and can decide anew for a life by freeing ourselves from negative entanglements and concepts.

The other branch of the Ypsilon – the path of life – makes these processes of change directly experienceable for the individual, physically as well as in feeling. Through walking actively, consciously, and attentively on the path of life, as well as the conscious feeling of each step, new networks are created in the brain, which make change easier for us. When we set out on a life path that suits us, we increasingly become aware of our needs and take care of their fulfilment ourselves – mindful in our dealings with our fellow human beings.

The creative handling of the path of the Ypsilon allows joy to grow within us to change from the survival mode to a vibrant life with all inherent challenges and in all its fullness. In the awareness of a clear, positive identity, new self-confidence and a new competence to act emerge on all levels, privately as well as professionally.